We had the good fortune of connecting with Adiba Nelson and we’ve shared our conversation below.
Hi Adiba, what’s one piece of conventional advice that you disagree with?
“Always have a Plan B”. No. I fundamentally disagree with this. Have multiple avenues available at the ready to reach your goal, or even multiple Plan A’s, but *do not* have a Plan B. Having a Plan B almost guarantees you will not put your everything into your Plan A.
Alright, so let’s move onto what keeps you busy professionally?
I have taken much pride in being a writer who says many of the things that we, as women and mothers. are not supposed to say. Being willing to “be your Huckleberry”, if you will, has given women around the world the courage to step out and see what life might be like if they just stopped giving so much of a damn about what society thinks. It’s allowed them to just be human, flaws and all, and be okay with it. I am so proud of that. There was a time when someone would tell me I was an inspiration to them and I would awkwardly say “ME? Girl, please!” But I get it now. I see Lizzo and Beyonce’ living their best lives, regardless of what society says their best life should or should not look like, and it inspires *me* to be more of my authentic self, to speak louder for and about the things I believe in, the things that affect me or my daughter. Is it always easy? Heck no! There are definitely articles I’ve written that after I’ve submitted them to my editor, immediately wanted to call it back and trash it. When I wrote my article about being a food addict, I was incredibly nervous about submitting it for publishing because it was something absolutely NO ONE knew about me, and I knew for some, it would be incredibly difficult to imagine me doing some of the things I spoke about in the piece. But it’s that realness, honesty and vulnerability with the reading public that has helped me land other writing gigs with outlets like Huffington Post, Washington Post, and The Lily, and has ultimately led to me penning my memoir (due out Spring 2022 – shameless plug!)
Any places to eat or things to do that you can share with our readers? If they have a friend visiting town, what are some spots they could take them to?
Look, I’m a city girl through and through – I don’t hike, lol. Well at least not through the desert. But I *do* eat – I LOVE good food, and Tucson is bursting at the seams with amazing restaurants. We would just go restaurant hopping all dang day. Breakfasts would be at Prep & Pastry (Prep Omelette and Chef Hannah’s Green Chile French Toast for the win), Nook (Honey Chipotle Carnitas Benedict, anyone?), and Baja Cafe (Corned Beef and Eggs with a side of food coma, please). We wouldn’t eat lunch because we’d be laid up trying to recover from breakfast…but then dinner? Whew chile – Literally EVERYTHING on the menu at Contigo Latin Kitchen, the goat cheese tart and sticky wings from Commoner and Co, and ending with a good old “lick the bowl” session at Welcome Diner, as we eat our weight in Chorizo Mac ‘n Cheese. And on the off nights we’d have to do the Tucson classics, like Super Nachos from Nico’s, Eegee’s, and giant bowls of Ramen from Raijin Ramen (though they’re more ‘new’ than classic, but whatever, I’m driving).
Who else deserves some credit and recognition?
To every person who put me in the room, said my name, and dreamed dreams for me that I never even imagined as reality….Thank you.
Website: www.thefullnelson.net *and* www.clarabelleblue.com
Gold dress photos: Kathleen Dreier Photography