We had the good fortune of connecting with Mark Rosenfeld and we’ve shared our conversation below.

Hi Mark, can you talk to us a bit about the social impact of your business?
Our western culture is becoming more and more isolationist and individualistic… and despite this, there is almost no training for men and women on how to actually “do” relationships and the necessary relationship skills that are so key in keeping them afloat. So here’s what we see as results…

– Near 50% divorce rates,
– Over 75% of divorces initiated by women, over 90% if the women are college educated (i.e. swathes of unhappy women)
– Women who are unhappy and exhausted from mumming, working and maintaining the household
– Women who are lonely because they are choosing to stay single instead of being in another hurtful or unfulfilling relationship
– Women in relationships that are getting worse but don’t know what their needs/wants are or if they do don’t know how to speak with them
– Lonely men who die sooner without a partner
– Men who are torn between trying to be “stoic, masculine and unemotional” to be attractive in dating and “emotional enough” to meet women’s emotional needs in a relationship… but feeling totally confused as to how to balance those two.
– Men who have no idea how to process serious trauma and end up burying it and ultimately projecting it onto their partners (toxicity)
– Men who want to be good partners but are never taught how to set boundaries, negotiate and speak up to woman and/or don’t know how to deal with a woman who becomes emotionally threatening.

We are designed to ‘relate’ – we are a communal species. There is no biological precedent for us “lone wolfing”. Yet our culture combined with our lack of relationship skills (which are rarely if ever taught or demonstrated to us when we are young), means we are becoming further and further apart, creating and spreading more trauma (toxicity) to one another.

Let’s talk shop? Tell us more about your career, what can you share with our community?
My career has gone in so many directions! I’ve loved gym and working out since I was 16, but at age 18 I gave myself stress fractures in my heels training too hard to be in the army, so the military dream was gone and instead, despite being incredibly socially anxious, I decided to focus on college. I graduated from a bachelors of exercise science undergraduate degree in 2008 only to realise I had ZERO interest in being a physical therapist, so I took the leap and began a veterinary medicine degree in 2009.

At this point my social/dating anxiety had gotten so bad that I could barely even talk to a woman, so I did the only thing that made sense in order to change it… go to nightclubs (sober) every night until I found confidence. 183 nights later not only had I coached myself to confidence, other men were starting to ask for confidence coaching and training from me.

While coaching men and studying veterinary medicine, I decided in 2011 to take my next confidence challenge and apply for a job as a male stripper. This job had me meeting and interacting with hundreds of women every weekend, and eventually (after a few years) I had spoken to enough women that I realised there was a demand for confidence and dating coaching in the women’s market. I graduated as a veterinarian in 2013 and began making blogs and videos and taking on female clients in late 2015. That was when I started my company “Make Him Yours” focusing exclusively on women.

From there, this business took off, and I slowly worked fewer and fewer hours as a veterinarian until my final retirement on July 8th, 2019. I actually filmed a video blog about my last day at work if it’s of interest I can get the link. I continued to strip while working on my business, traveling across the world for both. From New York to New Zealand, Manila to Miama and every corner of Australia, I was blessed to be doing not one but TWO jobs I loved and being able to travel for both.

I received a US O1-Visa (extraordinary talent) VISA on January 1st, 2021 and moved my business to the US where it has grown. I finally hung up the stripper pants prior to this move and now focus exclusively on helping women and couples build dating and relationship skillsets through Make Him Yours.

Let’s say your best friend was visiting the area and you wanted to show them the best time ever. Where would you take them? Give us a little itinerary – say it was a week long trip, where would you eat, drink, visit, hang out, etc.
I live in Vegas so this is LITERALLY the best question ever.

Monday – Kicking off the week in style we’re off to the Bellagio Las Vegas to see the beautiful auditorium and the “O” show – the greatest circus performance that exists in the world. Performers fly 60 feet in the air as the stage somehow transitions from a hard floor to a 30ft pool in moments to catch their falls. Before heading home we check out the beautiful waterfall feature, watching the cannons fire water 100ft in the air in time to Elvis’ classic(s).

Tuesday night – We’re going to be bougie’ tonight – Off to Gordon Ramsay’s Hells Kitchen restaurant to have the best damn Beef Wellington you’ll ever experience! Dinner is done by about 9pm, which means there’s still time to head north to the top of the Stratosphere hotel and jump off it (while wearing a harness). While it made us a little queezy, but we kept the food down just fine.

Wednesday night – It’s time for more circus, the highly reputed “Ka” show is playing live at the MGM grand and we’re not missing it! Still, we need to eat first, so we’ll be having Tepenyaki at Morimoto restaurant nearby with a friendly chef cooking our food in front of us!

Thursday – Mr. Martin Garrix is in town and there’s no way we’re letting this opportunity pass! We’re off to the world’s premier nightclub – Omnia Las Vegas to see the #1 EDM DJ himself play all his bangers from ‘Virus” to ‘High on Life’ and his new epic ‘Follow’. No drinking – we need to up by before 10am tomorrow!

Friday – After a big night out last night we get a little sleep in and head to sandbox VR at the Venetian – it’s Zombie killing time! We’re spend 30-minutes sweating up up a storm desperately defending against the undead before having an incecream at the nearby parlour next to the indoor lake. A break, come home, relax… and then… the greatest magician on earth. Yep, we’ve got tickets tonight to David Copperfield at the MGM Grand tonight! If you’ve never seen a T-Rex appear from nothing… well, now you have.

Saturday – We’re staying overnight at the Wynn, and guess what?? It’s NIGHTSWIM night. No need to drink, there’s enough fun going on in the pool with resident DJ Alesso that we don’t need alcohol or drugs to have the time of our lives. Let’s dance and meet people in boardshorts and swimmers while listening to the progressive house god.

Sunday – We’re finishing the week a BANG! After checking out of the Wynn and grabbing lunch at Sushi Twister (the best restaurant in Vegas) we’re heading to Resort’s World to see what I truly believe is the #1 show on the strip – David Blaine at Resorts world. He’s tearing apart money, swallowing it, then having it fall from the room repaired. He’s jumping off things that are 80 feet high. He’s holding his breath for 11 minutes. Yep, that’ll do it for the week. We’ll need to catch our breath after that!

(btw I’ve done almost everything I’ve mentioned here – just not in the same week!!!)

The Shoutout series is all about recognizing that our success and where we are in life is at least somewhat thanks to the efforts, support, mentorship, love and encouragement of others. So is there someone that you want to dedicate your shoutout to?
How can I not give credit and a shoutout to the most inspiring person in my life… my partner and soon to be fiance. She believes in me through the highs and the lows… she challenges me and gives me feedback when I’m not showing up at my best. She is the silent support that means I can always go out there and fall down and have a stable base to dust myself off from. Perhaps most importantly, she sits down both individually and next to me with relationship coach(es) and learns the emotional, communication, and introspective relationship skillsets that means she takes responsibility for her trauma (as I do mine) ensuring we resolve individually as a team, rather than projecting it on each other leading to a buildup of resentment. Now THAT is rare!!

      

Website: www.makehimyours.com

Instagram: @makehimyours.

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/markrosenfeldmhy/

Facebook: www.facebook.com/howtomakehimyours

Youtube: www.youtube.com/c/markrosenfeldMHY

Image Credits
Matthew Martin – ShutterPhotoVideo Australia

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