We had the good fortune of connecting with Ruby Paredes and we’ve shared our conversation below.
Hi Ruby, how has your perspective on work-life balance evolved over time?
I think its important to live a well balanced life in order to be happy and feel peace.
My priorities have changed so much overtime, especially since I became a mom.
Before, I would prioritize my needs in order to feel happy and accomplished.
Today, my kids and their well being always comes first.
I don’t like to over book myself because then that takes my time away from them and my home, and I don’t like to miss important moments or neglect my home or marriage.
If my schedule starts getting too busy I take a step back and simply turn offers and clients down.
I like to workout at least 3-4 times a week, eat as healthy as I can because I learned the hard way that health is everything in life, without it you can’t function or be happy.
I like to worship, mediate and attend church to feed my soul faith and encouragement.
Thats what gets me through the hard times.
I also like to make time for my friends, visit my family often in Mexico,
I love to cook, because good food is life,
and I bake a lot, it helps me relax and its one of my favorite hobbies.
I listen to podcasts almost daily.
I make time for my husband and my kids.
and most important I make time for myself.
I do things for myself, anything that brings me joy,
something as little as, go to a nearby coffee shop alone and enjoy my favorite latte
or going shopping.
Its important for me to always make that time for myself, it helps mentally and if I feel happy and complete,
then I can be the best version of myself to everyone else.
a well balanced life is a happy life
Alright, so let’s move onto what keeps you busy professionally?
I’m a personal stylist and I help women look their best. My job consists of organizing closets, creating mood boards,
personal shopping, virtual styling and one on one consultations.
Ive always loved fashion, ever since I was a little girl. I would always be one of the best dressed girls in school, and I always knew that I wanted to grow up and go to a fashion school.
Then life happened and those plans changed for the better and fast forward to 2017 I decided to just go for it. After finishing my last round of chemo, (because I am a breast cancer survivor)and fresh out a lumpectomy surgery, I went to New York for 3 days and got my Personal Stylist license with the best of the best, Lauren Messiah.
It was the best experience ever and I still think back on that day.
Styling is my passion so when I’m hired I give it my all.
I don’t like to just make women look good but to feel good! to make them see how beautiful they are and bring out the best in them.
Sometimes as women, we have so much on our plate and we’re always on the go that we forget about our appearance, we get comfortable dressing a certain way and finding flaws on ourselves and thinking that’s it, that we can’t look better.
Well my job is to show those women that you can indeed be beautiful and sexy again and help them regain confidence no matter their body shape or size.
Theres a saying my grandma would always say, ” there’s no such thing as an ugly woman, just a poorly styled one’
It’s true, we are all beautiful in our own way. We each have something that the other one doesn’t.
I teach them how to accentuate their best features, how to dress according to their bodies and life style.
My favorite thing about my job is when I get them out of their comfort zone and then its like this whole new person is reborn and then suddenly their marriage even gets better, the husband is complimenting again, they’re going to social gatherings with their head held high and they just look happy again.
Thats what makes my heart happy.
So to me its not just about the outfit, it’s about helping them feel their best in every aspect of their life all while looking their best in a style that fits their persona and at the same time is comfy for them.
I like to teach women that they don’t have to spend hundreds of dollars in clothes to look good,
but that it’s about finding ways to save and mix highs and lows.
That you don’t need a closet full of clothes but a few good items that you can mix and match.
One of the biggest life lessons I’ve learned is that life is hard for everyone.
At some point we all go through battles and life shouldn’t be about competing with others or comparing yourself to others, or to want to look a certain way and feel so pressured you forget to really live
and be happy.
We must be kind to each other and give a helping hand when we can.
Women are so competitive and judgmental towards each-other that its sad to see them
trying to fit in so bad or trying to look like someone else.
So when I work with a client I befriend them, I win their trust and I let them know I have their best interest and also that their insecurities, problems and what not are safe with me.
I invest my time and self to my clients 100 percent because I don’t like a job half done.
Let’s say your best friend was visiting the area and you wanted to show them the best time ever. Where would you take them? Give us a little itinerary – say it was a week long trip, where would you eat, drink, visit, hang out, etc.
Some of my favorite spots in Tucson or things to do are
having breakfast at Teaspoon and having their delicious bubble waffle with a vanilla latte.
I like going to Union Public House for snacks and drinks,
I love getting a room at The Ritz Carlton and enjoying their pool surrounded by the beautiful
Ordering a pizza from Luna Pizza
Spend some time at the Sonoran Desert Museum
Bike rides at the Rillito River Park
Catching a U of A basketball game when they’re in season
Watching the sunset at A mountain
Enjoying a delicious dinner at Locale Neighborhood Italian
Who else deserves some credit and recognition?
I’m very proud of the person I am today, of how I think and see life and I know that its thanks to my mother who raised me to be this way. I would like to thank her for teaching me about God since I was little and for teaching me about values and the importance of self-respect and family love.
And for always wanting the best for me.
I would like to thank my husband Luis for always believing in me, and trusting me with decisions.
For his infinite support since the day I met him and for being my biggest cheerleader.
and finally I would like to thank my friend and mentor, Erick.
he came into my life at the perfect time and he’s an angel on earth.
He brings me peace, he reminds me about what’s important in life and I’m so grateful for his love and support always.
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