We had the good fortune of connecting with Daniel Oromaner, MBA, CCHt and we’ve shared our conversation below.
Hi Daniel, how has your background shaped the person you are today?
I was born, raised, and attended school in New York City. As a Baby Boomer, I got used to crowded classrooms and competition for everything. My high school graduating class included 1,000 students, and competition even for summer jobs was intense. Fortunately, my parents encouraged hard work, and wanted me and my brother to (at least) graduate college, and possibly get graduate degrees–which we did. Neither my mother nor my father was able to accomplish their own educational dreams. My mother went to work right after high school, to help put her younger brother through college and dental school. My father wasn’t even that lucky. Since his father died when my dad was only nine, my father started working full time very young–and had to drop out of high school to support the family. Upon reflection, it’s easy to see how I developed a competitive nature, which expressed itself through stints in amateur auto racing and sailboat competitions. I’m not sure how my own father’s death at the early age of 46 affected me, but I like to think it motivates me to this day to help people with anxiety. You see, although my dad was never diagnosed, it’s easy to see how his father’s sudden death, and the dramatic change in their lifestyle, created the perfect breeding ground for major anxiety. In his case, like many people, the anxiety affected his gastrointestinal tract. Starting from when he was a young man, he had what we would now diagnose as irritable bowel syndrome (IBS). This ailment was responsible for his discharge from the army, but more significantly, as he got older the IBS laid the groundwork for the colorectal cancer that took his life at 46. So, as a clinical hypnotherapist, nothing gives me greater satisfaction than helping patients overcome their anxiety and IBS–knowing that I am helping them live long and fruitful lives!
Can you give our readers an introduction to your business? Maybe you can share a bit about what you do and what sets you apart from others?
Although my two degrees in psychology are probably the most important factor determining my success–with competitors who may not have any college education–I’d like to focus on my work experience. My Clinical Hypnotherapy practice started after I spent many decades as an entrepreneur and a management trainer. I know what it means to worry about generating enough revenue to pay my employees, and I understand the ins and outs of running a business. Many of my clients now are successful entrepreneurs; others have a goal of opening a business one day, and some are in management capacities. Even if they are not in that capacity, nor aspire to it, people often have trouble with co-workers or bosses. Most people don’t realize there are better options for their words and actions, and having the opportunity to hear my suggestions can be–and has been–invaluable. But what do I have to offer the stay-at-home mom? While some might disagree, I believe the principles of good management transfer very well to parenting. I’ve found the supervisor who has trouble enforcing rules at work, will probably have trouble enforcing rules with her/his children–and the dog! I believe the principles are the same. The parent who gives up reminding her child to pick up her toys–and just does it herself–is the same parent who will do the work of subordinates, out of exasperation. And, while the situations aren’t exactly comparable, my advice to parents of older children with drug or alcohol problems, is not much different from what I say to those who supervise employees with substance abuse issues. People are pretty much the same in all situations. When you know the principles, it’s easy to apply them. Some challenges in my practice have been easier to overcome than others, but since I started the business during the worst of the Great Recession in Arizona, my perspective is different than those who started businesses more recently. How did I have the courage to do it? Well, as a seasoned entrepreneur, I had the experience of owning a consulting practice that weathered a few recessions. I knew it could be done, because I HAD done it! When I talked to family members who were worried, I reassured them that I don’t need thousands of customers–I only need a few. And, while that period was very difficult for some (I heard about the foreclosures), I was able to help my clients keep their heads above water. So, the lessons are simple: If you work hard, and provide a product/service that is better at meeting customers’ needs, you will thrive! In addition, I’d say flexibility is key. Let the market guide you, not the other way around. My specialties now are very different from what I expected when I started thirteen years ago. And, finally, trust your intuition. Sometimes we just have a feeling about something or someone. I know many have ended up at my office door because of those feelings, and in most of those instances–it turned out to be the right decision.
Any places to eat or things to do that you can share with our readers? If they have a friend visiting town, what are some spots they could take them to?
I would start with a couple of days at the Grand Canyon. It is such an amazing place, and if my friend were fit enough, that would include at least some descent into the canyon on the switchback trails. My children and I did the hike on our first trip to Arizona, when they were 12 and 10. We actually got pretty far down before it was time to turn around and go back uphill. On the way south from the Grand Canyon, we would stop at magical Sedona for sightseeing and more hiking. Another natural wonder that would be a shame to miss! Dinner in Sedona is always a treat, and possibly an overnight stay there. Next, we could take the long way back on the mountain roads, and spend time in Prescott. Since I lived in Colorado for a few years, Prescott always reminds me of one of the many Colorado mountain towns. Heading back to the Valley, a looksee at Bartlett Lake is always a treat. Even the drive from Cave Creek–another interesting town to explore–is magnificent. At the Lake, various types of watercraft can be rented, or we could just hang out and watch the boats come and go. A must-see close to home is the Desert Botanical Garden. When I first moved here, so many people recommended a visit, but I foolishly thought “I’ve seen cactus before.” Well, they were right and I was wrong! What a feast for the eyes! What’s a trip to a new city without a culinary tour? My perennial favorite for lunch and dinner is any of the Pita Jungle locations. I, and most of my friends (and family), prefer healthy eating, and their tasty Mediterranean/Middle Eastern menu hits the spot! The best breakfast in the east valley can be found at Butters Pancakes & Cafe in Scottsdale. An hour wait on weekends is not unusual (even before COVID), but the freshly-made dishes are worth it. A person can’t live on breakfast alone, so having grown up in New York City, how could I NOT recommend the award-winning family Italian restaurant Vincitorio’s in Tempe? Once inside, I always feel like I’m back in the Big Apple! And, to end the trip with a flourish, the best steak AND seafood in the southeast valley can be found at Firebirds Wood Fired Grill. Their cocktails and wine list are also exemplary. Usually I prefer locally-owned restaurants, but in my opinion, the ambience and food at the Chandler location of this national chain has earned my respect.
Who else deserves some credit and recognition?
Even though it’s a cliche, I’d like to give credit to my parents. In my work as a Clinical Hypnotherapist, I teach people to understand the importance of our childhood experiences and messages. These experiences embed into our subconscious minds, and affect us for the rest of our lives. Have you noticed how many screwed up, or criminal, adults had terrible childhoods? Those were not coincidences. So, what messages did I receive and what type of role models were my parents? They both overcame obstacles in their lives–having lived through the Great Depression and World War II–yet they continued to be optimistic and believed most challenges could be overcome with hard work and perseverance. As a kid, I frequently heard how my mother left her job as a bookkeeper (when she was pregnant), and her boss needed to hire “three girls” to do all the work she did! Similarly, the story of how my father took (and passed) the insurance licensing exam with a 103-degree fever, was family lore. I also knew that he shined shoes as a kid to help the family make ends meet. However, he didn’t like to talk about those times, so I didn’t know about all the other jobs he did as a boy, until after he passed. Perhaps being forced to work at such a young age helped him understand people, and eventually become an excellent salesman. Undoubtedly the experiences helped drive his need for financial security. My dad taught me to smile and shake hands with everyone I meet, and both my parents taught me “honesty is the best policy.” Words that resonated when I saw each of them return an extra dollar or two to a cashier who gave them too much change. Most importantly, I was brought up with the Golden Rule: “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” I like to think my life has embodied those principles. And, the compassion I learned from my mother to help those in need. All in all, I was lucky to have my parents and family, and to grow up at a time and a place where I was gifted with an excellent education, and dear friends.