We had the good fortune of connecting with Lisa DiSciullo and we’ve shared our conversation below.
Hi Lisa, as a parent, what have you done for you children that you feel has had the most significant impact?
At a crisis point, fearing that I would fail as a parent, I recognized that my job was to parent with the long-term in mind. I realized, the hard way, that getting my kids to behave or do what I wanted them to do when I wanted them to do it, didn’t teach them to think for themselves. Giving them opportunities to choose a cute skirt with flip flops or warm leggings with boots on a winter day gave them an experience that shaped better choices in the future. They got to manage their own money, find their own jobs, make their own friends, and choose their own activities, all with guidance and support. The result is them knowing who they are, what they like and don’t like, and that they are capable of running their own lives.
What should our readers know about your business?
I work with individual parents and couples privately online or over the phone to create more harmony in their homes and relationships. I believe the goal of all human behavior is the desire to belong and our children are experimenting with how to be important, valued, and contribute to the group/family.
It was hard in the beginning because many parents believe that if their kids would just listen to them, it would solve everything. Once they see that “listening”, aka “obeying”, doesn’t help kids grow into resilient strong adults, they are interested in another way of approaching parenting.
I think the way I work with clients exemplifies relationship building, connection, and acceptance. I work hard to genuinely share myself, use clear communication, be respectful in every interaction, and not shy away from difficult conversations. Providing space, opportunity to learn, and value to clients is my highest priority.
It took me almost 3 years to build enough local credibility through networking and speaking for free to attract clients, get referrals, deliver consistently high-quality service, and develop a business community that supported me in how to keep building my business.
Any places to eat or things to do that you can share with our readers? If they have a friend visiting town, what are some spots they could take them to?
This is so hard because I just moved from NJ to Maryland, so I will give you tips from both places.
We definitely would spend at least one day at the beach. The southern NJ shore has beautiful wide white sand beaches with gorgeous rolling waves. The communities have cute towns with ice cream shops, seafood restaurants, and lots of mini-golf. There are families strolling and frolicking in the water.
In New Jersey, the must-haves in terms of food are bagels, we love Bagel Supreme in Springfield, NJ. It is a tiny place with bagels hot out of the oven first thing in the morning. Also, most NJ diners will serve, for breakfast, a pork roll and egg sandwich on a hard roll. Delicious!. Pizza is a must also and most towns have 2-3 delicious places to get a slice. We lived across from Huntley Taverne, a farm-to-table restaurant in Summit, NJ. Excellent service, delicious fresh food, and a wonderful fireplace in the bar.
We lived in commuting distance to NYC and pre-COVID, loved going in to catch a show and dinner. It was so easy to drive in early on a Saturday, although tough to find parking, and head home after the show.
In Maryland, a crab cake is your best bet. We love The Point in Arnold, MD. It is at a marina and has delicious food in an indoor/outdoor setting.
DC is also an amazing city to visit for a day or more, walking the National Mall, seeing the Washington monument, the White House, and the museums, and finding a nice spot to eat. There are always people to watch, events to find, and sights to see.
The Shoutout series is all about recognizing that our success and where we are in life is at least somewhat thanks to the efforts, support, mentorship, love and encouragement of others. So is there someone that you want to dedicate your shoutout to?
I would not be the parent, or coach that I am without the Parent Encouragement Program (PEP). Many years ago I showed up to get some help on how to stop getting frustrated with everyday life with 3 young children and start enjoying a family that got along. The program leaders and staff members, modeled the same respect, encouragement, and training that they taught parents to model in the home. The classes I took there changed our family so much that I became a trainer for PEP and went on to develop my own coaching business to help other parents.