We had the good fortune of connecting with Kimberlee Oliver and we’ve shared our conversation below.
Hi Kimberlee, as a parent, what do you feel is the most meaningful thing you’ve done for them?
If there ever was a loaded question – this would be up for gold. Out of all the skills, qualities and traits I hope to pass on to my daughter, I think the one that trumps them all is the ability to be mindful (of oneself, of others, and of the world we live in). The day and age we’re in is a fast paced one – with the necessary slow movements needing more intention and space to just be. This makes it difficult for us to know what it means to be still, or to listen without the intent of talking back and understanding what we really need (because it’s not always what someone else will tell us). By not just speaking these things to my daughter (yes, even at 2 1/2 years old!), but showing by example in how I react to daily challenges, to traffic, to stress, to sadness, to guilt, to disappointment – I’m giving her a front row seat of what it looks like to be human, and how to embrace or sit with both the downward spirals and the indescribable joys that come our way, and what to carry on to those we interact with.
Let’s talk shop? Tell us more about your career, what can you share with our community?
Because bills need to be paid, and I have other passions, I currently work in Vendor Management at PayPal (it would take too long to explain what the job actually entails, so I won’t). Before this I worked in Human Resources for 4 years (a few years at a non profit law firm in California, and prior to that was my first job out of college at a senior living organization). I became PHR certified in 2020, with the thought that I would one day, a long way down the road, be an HR Director – but to be honest, I don’t know what my long term goals are career wise at this very moment – and that’s okay.
I think we put a lot of pressure on ourselves to know what our purpose is (in a lot of areas) but especially with a career. Whether the messages come from our family, the local news channel or elsewhere, there’s an expectation to know what you want and to know it now. And some of us just don’t, because we’re on our way to figuring that out.
Another hat I wear work wise is working as a shopper for the company Shipt in the time between all the other things life is filled with. I love it because 1) get to listen to music and podcasts in my car as I pick up and drop off the goods to the customer and 2) I’m saving someone else’s time so they can keep doing what they’re doing.
When it comes to the content work I do for ATBK, the motivation isn’t always there, but not chasing after it, feels worse – so I keep going. Even when it’s hard (a lot of late nights writing accompanied with a glass of wine and pint of ice cream). I will say this: just because something is hard, doesn’t mean it’s a sign to not pursue it. If it continues to be hard on your heart, mind, and soul and doesn’t provide you any sort of relief or joy, look to adjust what you’re doing or pursue something else entirely. Life is too short to stick with something just because you’ve been doing it for “so long”.
Let’s say your best friend was visiting the area and you wanted to show them the best time ever. Where would you take them? Give us a little itinerary – say it was a week long trip, where would you eat, drink, visit, hang out, etc.
oh my goodness, I’m so glad you asked!! My number one recommendation if you’re ever in Gilbert Arizona is Level One Arcade and Bar. It’s a millennial’s dream come true – with the arcade games (they have a TON, and rotate them out if some aren’t played all that much), the music is an early 2000’s remix with a few current hits thrown in there, and incredible drinks and food. You can find me playing Galaga with a blonde ale at the ready. If we went during the day, it’s located in downtown Gilbert where there are plenty of shops and eateries to check out (and beautiful murals to get some good photos in front of). For coffee (a must, let’s be real, okay?) The Coffee Shop on Ray and Higley in Gilbert is the best place to go around here. Just go, trust me.
The Shoutout series is all about recognizing that our success and where we are in life is at least somewhat thanks to the efforts, support, mentorship, love and encouragement of others. So is there someone that you want to dedicate your shoutout to?
My passion to write and create stemmed from my dad, Lance, who passed away in 2021. He was passionate about stepping into the lives of those around him, because he knew the importance and the impact of having someone reach out in a time you needed it, without having to say a word. He is truly the example I seek to live by with the foundation of reminding people that they are not limited by what their inner critic tells them, nor are they required to live up to whatever standards the world set up for them (because a lot of it is rubbish). Throughout the last 5 years since I started As Told By Kimber, I wanted to give up writing entirely. The desire to write, and create was always there, but it felt pointless – in a world so vast, and loud, I didn’t want to blend in the midst of it. That said, I know for certain I wouldn’t have continued writing amidst the gaps if I didn’t have my dearest friend Lauren there. She kicks my inner critic (“Betty”) in the pants and has pushed me to go further, not quit and affirmed me (and gave some honest feedback) with some of my published writings. If there was one thing I wished for everyone in the world, it’s that they have a “Lauren” in their life.