We had the good fortune of connecting with Jillian Holper, CCHt and we’ve shared our conversation below.

Hi Jillian, alright, so let’s kick it off with a deep question: what’s the most important lesson you’ve learned along your journey?
I would have to say there are two. They are tied together, and both have changed me to the core of who I am. First, I have learned that each of us does have our own intrinsic ability to heal our mind, body, and spirit. Practitioners such as myself are simply holding a therapeutic container to allow that innate ability to manifest. The best practitioners help individuals to weed through the untruths in order to get to the true “knowing” of the individual and assist them in integrating that truth. From the journey I have experienced tied to that awareness, I have learned that each of us is truly, at our very core, doing our best. This is something I admittedly previously knew was probably true without really understanding and fully believing it. When an individual’s “best” shows up as hurting someone else, it is because they have some need that was, and/or is, not being fulfilled – and has thereby turned into a cycle of a type of trauma due to an unmet need. We are all just wanting to experience worth on some level or another. So often as humans we have programs running from the past where we felt unworthy. So, in this instance of the individual that is displaying hurtful actions, it is likely because a need was not met within them, and they are having a maladaptive way of trying to meet this need. This certainly doesn’t justify a hurtful action. That being said, it can provide some peace and understanding when we can understand that another’s hurtful behavior genuinely has nothing to do with us; that they are doing the best they can, given the lens through which they have experienced life. The realization of this can help us to understand that we are also capable of beginning to view life from a new, more empowering lens and have some forgiveness for ourselves where we have hurt others. After all, it is often shame and blame that keeps the cycle of hurtfulness going and forgiveness that makes space for inner healing.

Can you give our readers an introduction to your business? Maybe you can share a bit about what you do and what sets you apart from others?
Jillian is first a mother, wife, and lover of life. She knows, as both a practitioner and parent, the first-hand impact that self-care and mental health support (and lack thereof) can have on the life of both mother and child. Following opening her Hypnotherapy and Empowerment Life Coaching practice in 2014, Jillian became pregnant with her second child. During this time, a great deal of disassociated and unresolved trauma from her first pregnancy showed up for her to work through and heal. Jillian was incredibly fortunate to have resources and tools to support her as she navigated the challenges of life and parenting. It would be a serious understatement to say that the Mind-Body-Spirit resource Jillian received during this time was a game-changer for both her and her family. When Jillian was pregnant with her first child, she got into a severe car accident followed by years of recovery and learning how to walk again. In the midst of this, she was a young mother in an abusive relationship. Following a few ‘wake up calls’ in a very short time, she quickly learned the power she had to control the direction of her mind and, therefore, her overall life (see Jillian’s Best-Selling collaborative book “Inspirations” for more details). These ah-ha’s ushered Jillian to start (back) to college as a single mom for a degree in Psychology. Throughout these transitions, Jillian powered through with a focused mindset – although having little time for more profound healing from the traumas that occurred during that time. Following her first degree, she continued on a corporate path with a career at a large brokerage firm, until some health issues from a lack of self-care caught up and forced her to take some time off. It was during this time that she experienced some significant healing with the help of Hypnotherapy and Life Coaching. It was clear that her heart was being called to follow her passion for being of service to others, and this was the path for her to fulfill that. Jillian focused her sights on a 2nd degree in Occupational Studies in Holistic Health Care with a Concentration in Mind-Body Transformational Psychology at The Southwest Institute of Healing Arts (SWIHA). This enabled her to study various forms of healing arts and holistic modalities (including Hypnotherapy, Clinical Hypnotherapy, Advanced Life Coaching, and more). Jillian has gone on to study and gain various certifications, education, and training specializing in working with PTSD and Trauma (including Somatic Approaches to Healing Trauma), Hypnosis for Children and Teens, (including hypnotic play therapy), Child-Centered Play Therapy, Neurolinguistic Programming (NLP), Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT “Tapping”), and more. Today, and for the last several years, Jillian is doing what her soul had always longed for. She feels honored to be able to focus her practice on these modalities from a Trauma-informed/trained perspective by assisting and empowering people of all ages to reach their goals for mental, emotional, spiritual, and physical health and wellness. Her passion is in holding space for each individual’s innate intelligence, and she finds incredible meaning in witnessing each individual connect with their own inner wisdom, abilities, and empowerment.

If you had a friend visiting you, what are some of the local spots you’d want to take them around to?
One of the absolute jewels of this city is without a doubt The Riparian Preserve in Gilbert. Despite being in the middle of the city it feels as if you are in a vast oasis, and you can walk for miles, bike, fish, stargaze, picnic, dig for dinosaur bones, play with water, and so much more. This would absolutely be a focal point of any visits we might make. Another visit would have to be to downtown Tempe off Mill. With plenty of good food, shopping, and Tempe Town Lake, you have nearly everything you need in a couple of mile radius! Last I would have so say that we love the Superstisiion Spring Mountains area! The Salt River, Canyon Lake, Coon Bluff and all the incredible hiking can’t be missed. Plus, it’s always neat stop to spend a few hours at Goldfield Ghost Town and Mine Tours!

Shoutout is all about shouting out others who you feel deserve additional recognition and exposure. Who would you like to shoutout?
There are so many individuals who have helped to shape my practice into what it is. First and foremost, the incredible souls who I share my collective podcast with, Freedom Unfolding. Each one of these authentic individuals seems to effortlessly display integrity, compassion, neutrality, and grace in nearly all they do. I could never contextualize the impact each of you has had on my life, both personally and professionally. It would be hard not to mention the head of the Hypnotherapy program at Southwest Institute of Healing Arts, Linda Bennett, who has been the individual who has impacted my hypnotherapy portion of my practice the most. My gratitude, and understanding, for the wisdom you have imparted, seem to be ever-expanding, the more I practice. In regards to the topic of trauma, the individual whose work has impacted me in nearly every way is Peter Levine. Throughout all his brilliant texts, trainings, and offerings I would say that the most impactful as been his book, Trauma Through A Child’s Eyes. Without a doubt, it has been one of the most life-changing texts I have ever come across. Peter’s brilliance, and willingness to be a trailblazer serves as a constant motivator. Last, and perhaps most importantly, my loyal husband and family to whom without none of this would be possible. Women dream for lifetimes to find a partner as unconditionally loving, encouraging, supportive, helpful, and in-touch as you are Billy. Thank you for seeing me through all the blood, sweat, tears, and triumphs! To my incredible kiddos, Dom & Gray, you have been the motivator behind so much of who I am and what I do. Thank you for forgiving me when I make choices that can be hurtful, and understanding that all I do is with the most sincere intent to hold the container for you to have a more empowered life.

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