We had the good fortune of connecting with Lauren Madden and we’ve shared our conversation below.
Hi Lauren, as a parent, what do you feel is the most meaningful thing you’ve done for them?
Allowing myself to venture into the darkest parts of my soul and truly experience my shadows. Becoming a parent is a huge transformation, and it constantly brings up parts of my personality that I’m not necessarily proud of – things like impatience, control, resentment, anger, judgment, and selfishness. Because I’ve been involved with self-development work throughout my life, including therapy, coaching, yoga, meditation, and plant medicine, I have tools and resources that have given me a foundation to feel more capable of handling the challenges that being a parent throws your way. With this knowledge, I’m less reactive and able to be more present with my family, and really see the full picture of what’s going on. I think so many of us are living on autopilot and afraid to feel discomfort. We’re afraid to face the parts of us that we aren’t proud of, the parts of us that are fear-based. So much of parenting is about being given the opportunity to look at the challenging aspects of our personalities and either reject them, or embrace them. I want my children to know that it’s okay to feel big emotions, to make mistakes, and to always be a work-in-progress. I want them to see me as an imperfect human being who loves them so much but who also stumbles and has to say “sorry” sometimes. I don’t want them to think I’m perfect. The most important thing I’ve done as a parent has been the inner work to face my darkest parts and unconditionally love them, the same way I would unconditionally love my children. I hope that is a gift that will impact them, and one day when they become parents, allow them to do the same.
What should our readers know about your business?
I’ve been in & out of coaching for the past 5 years: working with coaches, and coaching others. I took a pause in my coaching business when I was pregnant with my first daughter, and after becoming a mom, realized that a lot of what I had been helping women with previously applied to becoming a mother, especially new motherhood. So now, I focus on helping moms feel more confident and empowered through mindset, mindfulness, and “real” self-love, so they can be better parents, partners, and have a larger impact on their community around them. I love what I do because I get to help people every day. My life has drastically changed because I’ve invested in working with coaches, and I love being able to provide that same ripple effect out to others. When you decide to hire a coach, you’re basically signaling to the Universe that you are ready to make massive shifts – even if they don’t appear externally right away. I love being a guide for women back to their true selves, the part of them that really knows what they want + what they are here for. We work together on ditching fear and the stories of perfectionism, people-pleasing, and sacrificing their inner truth for others. And what’s so cool about it is that we mirror back to each other what we need, so whenever I’m helping a client work through something, I get transformation from it, too. It’s a really beautiful process. The hardest part for me has been focusing on my own growth versus comparing myself to others and feeling like I’m not where I “should” be yet. It’s easy to compare yourself because we live in this weird world with 24/7 access to social media + other people’s highlight reels. We don’t see the YEARS of hard-work and sacrifice they had to put in to get to where they are now, we just see a snapshot of the current moment, and that can be defeating if you let it. So I’ve learned to allow myself to be inspired by others, but to remember that this is my journey, and my journey only, and that it’s meant to be mine for the rest of my life. If I had to tell the world one thing about my story, it’s this: keep going, and beauty is everywhere.
Let’s say your best friend was visiting the area and you wanted to show them the best time ever. Where would you take them? Give us a little itinerary – say it was a week long trip, where would you eat, drink, visit, hang out, etc.
HAHA, I am a terrible person to give advice about this, because I am such a homebody. My definition of “the best time ever” is going to Trader Joe’s to stock up on snacks, then come home and watch really good movies and snuggle on the couch under a cozy blanket. But if I was in a more adventurous mood, I’d take them to Cibo in Downtown Phoenix (they have the best outdoor patio + Nutella crepes!), then to Cobra Arcade bar to whoop their butt in Galaga. (This is actually a pretty regular date night for my man and me!). For outdoorsy stuff, I’d go to Papago Park, the Botanical Gardens, Tempe Town Lake, or one of our many insanely beautiful hiking trails. And a huge shoutout to barre3 in Chandler – I would take any of my girlfriends there to try a class with one of their amazing, supportive, badass teachers, anytime!
Who else deserves some credit and recognition?
I owe a huge part of my growth and success to my partner, Aaron. Since the moment I met him, he sparked something in me that I can’t always put into words, but that felt like inevitable expansion. We dove headfirst into our relationship and ended up getting pregnant within six months, and now almost four years later we’re expecting our second baby. Since then, we’ve built this incredibly beautiful life together, and I’m so grateful for the way he challenges me, in all the best ways. He pushes me to live outside of my comfort zone and take risks, to set healthier boundaries, to prioritize what’s important, to enjoy the little things, and to stick around for difficult conversations even when it feels awkward, but because we know it’s important for our growth. Our house is a happy place filled with incense and reggae music, and I’ll forever be grateful that we are doing life together. I know I’d be an entirely different person if it weren’t for him. He makes my life brighter. Separate from Aaron, I owe a lot of my growth to the coaches, therapists, mentors, yoga instructors, barre3 teachers, and friends I’ve crossed paths with over the years. I traveled a lot in my early 20s, and I’ll never forget the random people I met at hostels and in the corners of bars where I didn’t speak the language, who became friends and guides, often times providing exactly what I needed without me even knowing it until I look back years later.
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